DO I Hafta Grow UP? The Adult Guide to Unfinished Business of Childhood

Whether we are consciously aware of it or not, we are all involved in a marvelous master plan! We come into this world to live a life as a human being with enormous potential. We can become magnificent specimens of humanity, conquering mountains, diseases, and becoming the kinds of people we always knew we could be when were little tikes, playing in the backyard sandbox.

We always knew we would grow up to be:

1. Independent thinkers, doing things much better than we saw our parents doing them.
2. Productive citizens, pillars of community, capable of running things really well (unlike how current leaders are doing things).
3. Well liked, even revered in our later years because we accomplished something we, our parents, and everyone else would be proud of.
4. Powerful individuals, capable of withstanding criticism and immune to the opinion of others.

What do we find instead?

1. We continue to have the same fears and anxieties as when we were children, but now they are called diseases like: neuroses, insecurities, nervous breakdowns, and anxiety attacks.
2. We still have temper tantrums, but they are diagnosed as “anger disorders” and subjected to management tactics (not unlike what our parents tried with us that failed to work then, too).
3. We don’t have a clue as to how to run our own lives, so we ask astrologers, Tarot, advice columnists to make decisions and call on television judges to sort out our squabbles.
4. Signs everywhere tell us not to walk here, how fast to go, to stop, no right turn, no loitering and do what the boss tells us to do. Just like when we were little kids and our parents knew we wouldn’t do anything right unless made to do it.
5. Thousands upon thousands of laws going into even greater detail about what we cannot do and defining punishments for doing anything different.
6. Enforcement agents from crosswalk guards to police, sheriff, FBI, NSA, Interpol and secret agencies we only hear about in mystery novels and movies. They are supposed to keep us safe, but who keeps us safe from them?
7. Everyone wants to do our thinking for us from corporate management to ministers, rabbis, counselors and therapists, talk show hosts, experts on everything from how to dress, raise our kids, and vote to how to eat right.

Why? Because we really don’t know how to have a life and be productive and happy without someone else telling us how to do it!

After all, the experts say we are codependent, neurotic, insecure, in need of assistance with every part of our lives from how to wash our faces to creating an abundant life. We all want to do something different, but the “helpers” we find are mostly just as incapacitated by the same problems as we are. So we find groups like

• AA where alcoholics are counseling other alcoholics on alcoholism.
• Psychologists and psychological models that are as much a part of the problem as a real solution. 
• Sciences that provide conflicting advice on what to eat, how to love and marry satisfactorily, raise children,  and grow old while continue to look young.

What we fail to grasp as a culture is that most of our adult problems arise from continuing to be engaged in the process of growing up. We are having a hard time with adult life because it isn’t and never was a playground for children. Real grownups don’t have a problem with adult life and are having the kind of fun and successes that we envisioned as youngsters. But the majority--about 86% of us--never made it to being grown up. We are still engaged in the process of growing up.

What we need is a roadmap--a model that tells us where we are on our personal path to becoming grownup. And what to do with where we are.

And You Just Found it!

It’s all in  DO I Hafta Grow UP? Adult Guide to Unfinished Business of Growing Up

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